Labels, we all have them. I am a mother, wife, daughter, green-eyed, weird, and so many more labels that I give myself and those others give me. Does that mean that I have to accept each of those labels? Nope. I have the freedom to accept those that I feel fit me, make me feel good, and throw out those shitty ones that make me feel awful or don’t resonate. I touched on the word ‘witch’ in this week’s podcast. What does it mean to you? If that’s a label you give yourself, how does it make you feel to say it out loud? Can you say it to others? These are great journal prompts to see just how comfortable or uncomfortable you are with that word. It has a lot of negative baggage that society has attached to it, so I can completely understand if that word makes you cringe with worry about what others will think of you if you use that label for yourself. But, it doesn’t have to be that way. What society thinks about a word has no relevance in relation to who you really are. It’s up to you to portray what you want the world to see. If you want them to see a dark goth person that labels themselves as a witch, then awesome! If you are a barefoot, no bra wearing hippy witch and that’s the most authentic way you can be, then perfect! The standard dictionary definition of the word doesn’t even come close to what it really means to each individual. So be the most authentic YOU that you can be! That label can mean whatever you want it to mean! I have been called so many names and had a lot of people just assume I’m a certain way because of my clothing, who I associate with (or don’t), and how I live my life. I don’t care anymore. I finally feel like I’m living life authentically and it feels amazing. It hasn’t come with negative feedback, but those opinions just don’t carry any weight anymore. So, I wear what I want. I own a metaphysical shop and sell spell candles, incense, and wear what I feel to me are witchy clothing. IT FEELS FABULOUS!
A subject that comes up a lot for me is how I am supposed to react to the haters, the uninformed, or the down right nasty religious people who hate that I exist. Is it my responsibility to behave a certain way so that the general public isn’t so threatened by us? And by us, I mean the people who have belief systems, spiritual faiths, or practice a craft that isn’t based in Christianity. I’ve had my storefront window spit on, heard the whispers of how Reiki calls in demons, and even had kids run when I look at them through my shop window. I could have yelled at the old lady that spit on my window. I felt like arguing with the little old lady that said I call in demons when I do Reiki. And just for fun, I really wanted to cackle and run down the sidewalk after those kids. But, I didn’t do any of those things. Yes it is irritating and frustrating that they think those things about me. Reacting wouldn’t change their minds though. Some people just want that negative reaction from me so that they can feel like they are just in their assumptions. So I give them nothing. I don’t go out of my way to be kind to my critics, but I’m not mean either. I help those who come into the shop or contact me online, and I focus my energy on those people. Those are the people that deserve my energy and time. Don’t get me wrong, if I’m verbally attacked or feel physically threatened I will most definitely defend myself. But for me, there’s an invisible line that I am aware of.
I’d like to recommend a book that really made my passion for life and my path burn brighter; Woman Most Wild by Danielle Dulsky. This book is dripping with poetic prose and magick! It is so beautifully written that I felt like reading it was a really long and deep meditation. I fell into a trance reading her words about the feminine divine and connecting to nature and our personal path. It is a must read for anyone that is interested in connecting with your inner goddess or just needs a bit of fire in their belly to get your life going down a path of inspiration and purpose. You can read about it here on her site : https://danielledulsky.com/
Well, that about wraps it up for this week! Look for next week’s podcast where I interview my hubby about being a muggle being married to a witch and medium!
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